“One time when Eva inquired about my long-term prognosis, a nurse told her, ‘Honey, you don’t need to know all of that. You’re just a wife’.”
This is a quote from Don Piper’s book, “90 MINUTES IN HEAVEN,” 10th anniversary edition, p. 147. If you haven’t read the book, I highly recommend that you do. I picked it up the other day at WalMart while I was waiting for my wife. I read it through at one sitting. I’m not ashamed to admit that the tears flowed freely.
The quote comes in the middle of a section in which Don explains what happened when he was finally able to come home after many months of lying immobile in a hospital bed and how those long months had affected his wife. I’ll not go into all that because you can read it for yourself.
But the quote really struck me. I’ve often made the comment that no woman is ever “just a mother.” I’m going to have to expand that to say that no woman is ever “just a wife.”
I’m sure the nurse didn’t mean her remark as an insult. She probably was just trying to spare Eva Piper some of the painful details of her husband’s recovery.
At the same time, though, it’s a reflection of current attitudes towards women and marriage.
“Just a wife.”
How little, sometimes, we clunkers of husbands value the women God has been gracious enough to put into our lives. Oh, I know they’re not perfect…
Neither are we.
Like Hannah’s husband Elkanah, we’re so often unable to understand the heart needs of the woman who shares our life, 1 Samuel 1:8.
If any man does think he’s perfect, he needs to ask his wife about it.
When Adam was by himself in the Garden, God said that it wasn’t good that he should be alone. So He did something about it.
He made a wife.
Not simply a woman, though that’s how we think of her, and, indeed, how Scripture describes her. But she was so much more than that: she was a wife.
It’s true that things happened we wish wouldn’t have and their perfect harmony and happiness was disrupted. Paradise was lost and has never been regained.
It just occurred to me as I was thinking about what to write next, that marriage (and family) is the one of the few things Adam took with him from the Garden.
He still had Eve.
There’s a lot more that I could write, how Christ’s love for us is pictured in marriage, how that love is the pattern we husbands are supposed to follow as to how we view and treat our own wives. How Adam was made complete by Eve. She was in no way “inferior” to him, but he was incomplete without her.
Let me just close with this – a loving wife is the greatest blessing, short of salvation, that God can give a man.
Her worth is far above rubies, Proverbs 31:10.